that impress me, so much more than the big ones. Flowers? Lovely. Dinner at an exquisite restaurant? Enjoyable. Voluntarily scraping dirt off of my new boots? Extraordinary. I'm a simple girl. I know that actions speak louder than words.
I miss boot scraper man. :-(
Monday, December 28, 2009
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Frugality and the SIngle Girl
I just finished reading the Penny Pincher's Club, a chick-lit book about a woman who tries to save money to prepare for a divorce, and undergoes some drastic life changes in the process. It was entertaining, a quick read, and got me thinking about how a life of frugality conflicts with the life of a single woman. Here are just a few examples I thought of:
Conflict #1: One of the best ways to save money is to shop for groceries, buy things in season, and prepare meals at home. However, one of the best ways to socialize is to dine out with friends, or go to happy hours for drinks and snacks. Do you want to eat your $.99 Cup O'Noodles at home, or go out to a trendy spot and spend $10 on a drink and $9 on a salad?
Conflict #2: Cutting out an expensive health club membership is another good way to save money. But a healthy, fit single woman enjoys the camaraderie of working out among like-minded people, and there is always the possibility that the cute guy returning the dumbbells to the weight rack will use his strong arms to lift you into an embrace. Honestly, I think gyms are great places to meet people of the opposite sex. You've got the endorphins flowing, you're feeling good, feeling fit, have a slight flush to your face . . . or you could stay home and watch a workout DVD and lift weights. Or maybe go for a run in the park (weather conditions permitting).
Conflict #3: Avoiding shopping malls will keep money in your wallet. But we single ladies like to feel pretty and fashionable, and buying new clothes from time to time helps us do so. After all, we don't want our dates thinking we're schlumps, do we? Especially if our love interest invites us to a fancy affair where we can't just wear a potato sack . . .
Conflict #4: Entertainment other than food. In order to circulate with interesting people and expand social horizons, there are certain parties fundraisers it only makes sense to attend. Happily, the ticket price for such events are generally tax-deductible contributions. Sadly, the clothes, hair blow-outs or styling products, and transportation necessary for such events are not.
I have friends who have a special "budget" for man-hunting. The parents of one (39? 40? year old) woman I know even offered her $100,000 if she would quit her job and focus on finding a husband! She didn't quit. . . but she did decline the company's offer to relocate her when she was informed of the layoff or relocation option a few weeks later. She now spends her time scheming up places she can go to meet Mr. Right, and dabbling in consulting work in the meantime.
There are other, deeper issues on my mind but I just thought y'all might be interested in hearing about something lighter for a change.
xxooo curlygirl
Conflict #1: One of the best ways to save money is to shop for groceries, buy things in season, and prepare meals at home. However, one of the best ways to socialize is to dine out with friends, or go to happy hours for drinks and snacks. Do you want to eat your $.99 Cup O'Noodles at home, or go out to a trendy spot and spend $10 on a drink and $9 on a salad?
Conflict #2: Cutting out an expensive health club membership is another good way to save money. But a healthy, fit single woman enjoys the camaraderie of working out among like-minded people, and there is always the possibility that the cute guy returning the dumbbells to the weight rack will use his strong arms to lift you into an embrace. Honestly, I think gyms are great places to meet people of the opposite sex. You've got the endorphins flowing, you're feeling good, feeling fit, have a slight flush to your face . . . or you could stay home and watch a workout DVD and lift weights. Or maybe go for a run in the park (weather conditions permitting).
Conflict #3: Avoiding shopping malls will keep money in your wallet. But we single ladies like to feel pretty and fashionable, and buying new clothes from time to time helps us do so. After all, we don't want our dates thinking we're schlumps, do we? Especially if our love interest invites us to a fancy affair where we can't just wear a potato sack . . .
Conflict #4: Entertainment other than food. In order to circulate with interesting people and expand social horizons, there are certain parties fundraisers it only makes sense to attend. Happily, the ticket price for such events are generally tax-deductible contributions. Sadly, the clothes, hair blow-outs or styling products, and transportation necessary for such events are not.
I have friends who have a special "budget" for man-hunting. The parents of one (39? 40? year old) woman I know even offered her $100,000 if she would quit her job and focus on finding a husband! She didn't quit. . . but she did decline the company's offer to relocate her when she was informed of the layoff or relocation option a few weeks later. She now spends her time scheming up places she can go to meet Mr. Right, and dabbling in consulting work in the meantime.
There are other, deeper issues on my mind but I just thought y'all might be interested in hearing about something lighter for a change.
xxooo curlygirl
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
My Sports Equipment
Just clearing out my closets and coming across various sports equipment I have acquired thanks to various men in my life:
- Some really cute golf outfits to impress that golf aficionado I met over the summer. I even went to the driving range a few times in preparation for our time together!
- A complete matching ski outfit from when I was dating Big Liar. We had so much fun in the mountains . . . until I suspected that things were not as they seemed.
- A tennis racket, which reminded me of the South African tennis pro I met so long ago, who recently friended me on Facebook. Yes, he is as cute as ever, but it's unclear whether he is dating one of his former students.
- Polarized sunglasses, in preparation for the trip to limboman's family fishing retreat in Idaho (or was it Utah? I forgot).
- Various swimwear, worn either in hot tubs, pools, or under a wetsuit when the crazy passionate Israeli tried to teach me to surf.
I think there may be something to this . . . trying out various equipment and sports, encouraged by the man in my life at that time, to see if they click for me. I have not found a true love for any of the sports (or the men), though I am always game to try something new. The best part of learning and trying all sorts of things is that it gives me a chance to understand one part of what makes someone else tick. I do it for the companionship, not for the athletic challenge. And it has been fun, in retrospect, getting to know all kinds of different things and people. It's good when we get outside of our comfort zones and expand our horizons. There is a whole big wide world out there!
xxooo
- Some really cute golf outfits to impress that golf aficionado I met over the summer. I even went to the driving range a few times in preparation for our time together!
- A complete matching ski outfit from when I was dating Big Liar. We had so much fun in the mountains . . . until I suspected that things were not as they seemed.
- A tennis racket, which reminded me of the South African tennis pro I met so long ago, who recently friended me on Facebook. Yes, he is as cute as ever, but it's unclear whether he is dating one of his former students.
- Polarized sunglasses, in preparation for the trip to limboman's family fishing retreat in Idaho (or was it Utah? I forgot).
- Various swimwear, worn either in hot tubs, pools, or under a wetsuit when the crazy passionate Israeli tried to teach me to surf.
I think there may be something to this . . . trying out various equipment and sports, encouraged by the man in my life at that time, to see if they click for me. I have not found a true love for any of the sports (or the men), though I am always game to try something new. The best part of learning and trying all sorts of things is that it gives me a chance to understand one part of what makes someone else tick. I do it for the companionship, not for the athletic challenge. And it has been fun, in retrospect, getting to know all kinds of different things and people. It's good when we get outside of our comfort zones and expand our horizons. There is a whole big wide world out there!
xxooo
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
My new love
Hey guys, did you miss me? For those who have been reading my blog for a while now, you know that I've been dating and hoping to meet my Bashert for several years - too many years, if you ask me! Well, I am happy to announce that I have finally stopped looking. Yes, that's right, I found my true love, and only had to go up to Boulder to realize it!
I was informed of a special event in Boulder via email about a month ago. Intrigued, I drove up through the snow flurries to check it out. Much to my surprise, I feel in love on the spot. My new love is totally green, has basically NO carbon footprint, sexy, sophisticated, and even feels a little dangerous when we're together sometimes. He goes as fast as I want him to, but slows down when I am starting to feel uncomfortable. A feeling of elation engulfs me when we're together. It's almost dizzying. I truly have never felt such a rush before.
I think my new love suits me quite well. Heads turn when we go down the street. He's not just arm candy, though. Of course, he is very very handsome, but beneath the shiny exterior lies a highly intelligent mechanism that makes everything work.
Sadly, I have only seen my new love twice since we met. Once on my own, and again last month with a friend (rebound guy, actually) to check it out. I know, it sounds like I'm just getting infatuated with another guy who promises to fill all of the empty spots in my life, right? No, actually, I can't afford my new love, as he comes with a price tag of over $125,000, and I don't have quite that chunk of change lying around right now.
Introducing my new and future love, the Tesla.
I was informed of a special event in Boulder via email about a month ago. Intrigued, I drove up through the snow flurries to check it out. Much to my surprise, I feel in love on the spot. My new love is totally green, has basically NO carbon footprint, sexy, sophisticated, and even feels a little dangerous when we're together sometimes. He goes as fast as I want him to, but slows down when I am starting to feel uncomfortable. A feeling of elation engulfs me when we're together. It's almost dizzying. I truly have never felt such a rush before.
I think my new love suits me quite well. Heads turn when we go down the street. He's not just arm candy, though. Of course, he is very very handsome, but beneath the shiny exterior lies a highly intelligent mechanism that makes everything work.
Sadly, I have only seen my new love twice since we met. Once on my own, and again last month with a friend (rebound guy, actually) to check it out. I know, it sounds like I'm just getting infatuated with another guy who promises to fill all of the empty spots in my life, right? No, actually, I can't afford my new love, as he comes with a price tag of over $125,000, and I don't have quite that chunk of change lying around right now.
Introducing my new and future love, the Tesla.
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Rebounds
I am in a happy place right now. I am grateful for my health, friends, family, and stability. I feel a sense of calm, the desperation and sadness is gone. I am . . . on the rebound.
Some people say that "the best way to get one person off of your mind is to get another on your body." I think that is ok for people who don't take physicality seriously, but it would probably not work for me. When I'm close to someone, feelings of attachment usually develop. If those feelings are not accompanied by a relationship, whirly thoughts (why hasn't he called? when am i going to see him again? what is he thinking? i wonder what it meant when . . .) begin, and I certainly don't need those again.
Naw, I feel so snug and content and don't want to mess up that feeling. Rebound guy seems to be in the same place. I'm kind of excited to get to know someone as a "friend first" with the physical aspect removed. I almost feel like it will be shidduch dating, where a couple really gets to know each other without a single touch (and then in a few weeks decides that they should be married). I have all kinds of ideas of things we could do, places we can go, that won't lead to the bedroom. I hope he is sincere in his desire to take things slowly and not rush into anything. Because I sure don't want to do that again. Enough drama, questions about ring size and sweeping talks of the future. Let's take it one logical step at a time, this time, eh?
Some people say that "the best way to get one person off of your mind is to get another on your body." I think that is ok for people who don't take physicality seriously, but it would probably not work for me. When I'm close to someone, feelings of attachment usually develop. If those feelings are not accompanied by a relationship, whirly thoughts (why hasn't he called? when am i going to see him again? what is he thinking? i wonder what it meant when . . .) begin, and I certainly don't need those again.
Naw, I feel so snug and content and don't want to mess up that feeling. Rebound guy seems to be in the same place. I'm kind of excited to get to know someone as a "friend first" with the physical aspect removed. I almost feel like it will be shidduch dating, where a couple really gets to know each other without a single touch (and then in a few weeks decides that they should be married). I have all kinds of ideas of things we could do, places we can go, that won't lead to the bedroom. I hope he is sincere in his desire to take things slowly and not rush into anything. Because I sure don't want to do that again. Enough drama, questions about ring size and sweeping talks of the future. Let's take it one logical step at a time, this time, eh?
Monday, August 31, 2009
Rule of 3
During our first year in law school, we learned about the "rule of three" in legal research. The general premise is that, in order to find the answer to your legal research question, you should research multiple sources. When the same case or premise is cited in three or more places, you know that is a seminal case for that particular area of law.
So what, then, does it mean when the same man has shown up on my radar through three different methods? We saw each other on jdate several years ago, but never connected (I treated jdate like a video game at the time). I met him earlier this year at an American Jewish Congress event. We had an unremarkable date. We went to a great dessert place. Over chocolate cake, we discovered that we don't have a hell of a lot in common. Then, yesterday he popped up again.
My neighbor K-Dawg is always looking out for me! I love him and his sweet Golden Retriever. But we can never be together because of religious and other differences. Yesterday he asked me, out of the blue, if I would like to meet a "tall, very successful, nice Jewish man." Duuuh, of COURSE I would! In learning the basics about this guy, I quickly realized it was 3xradarman. I told him it was sooo sweet of him to think of me, but I have already been out with this guy. I described our unremarkable date, after which I never heard from him again, and told K-Dawg that I would be open to reconnecting. Who knows. Maybe the third time is a charm?
So what, then, does it mean when the same man has shown up on my radar through three different methods? We saw each other on jdate several years ago, but never connected (I treated jdate like a video game at the time). I met him earlier this year at an American Jewish Congress event. We had an unremarkable date. We went to a great dessert place. Over chocolate cake, we discovered that we don't have a hell of a lot in common. Then, yesterday he popped up again.
My neighbor K-Dawg is always looking out for me! I love him and his sweet Golden Retriever. But we can never be together because of religious and other differences. Yesterday he asked me, out of the blue, if I would like to meet a "tall, very successful, nice Jewish man." Duuuh, of COURSE I would! In learning the basics about this guy, I quickly realized it was 3xradarman. I told him it was sooo sweet of him to think of me, but I have already been out with this guy. I described our unremarkable date, after which I never heard from him again, and told K-Dawg that I would be open to reconnecting. Who knows. Maybe the third time is a charm?
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Summer is almost over!
I can't believe the summer is coming to an end. Oh, how I have enjoyed the beautiful days! Yesterday I went horseback riding around a lake in the mountains, a serene scene that was a departure from daily Denver life.
Have you guys seen the movie 500 Days of Summer? Not that I'm still thinking about The Guy, but if I was, I would draw analogies between Summer and him. How in the movie, the main character only realizes upon looking back over his relationship how there were so many little signs that things weren't right. When Summer didn't want to open up about past relationships, for instance. When she got bored at Ikea. If I was still thinking about The Guy, I could probably go back and pick apart our time together and discover similar clues that we were doomed. Hindsight is 20/20, I know.
Happily, I am not thinking about The Guy any more. I hopped back on the internet and had another blind date, except it turns out my blind date and I grew up in the same neighborhood! We were a few years apart in school, so never knew each other. But I am looking forward to a rebound relationship or more with him. :-)
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